Happy Women’s Day to the most PERFECT WOMEN out there

08 March, 2018

Hello, my beautiful ladies!

After a long time, I am sitting here and writing a post but this time it’s different. It’s unusual, it’s a feeling I can’t describe. My heart is filled up with emotions, my brain is brim-full and I have got so much to say but I don’t know where to start from, how to put it all in words. All I can say is that, if you are reading this, even if we don’t know each other, I am sending out the tightest and warmest hugs to you all.
Today, 8th of March, your inbox will be flooded with “Happy Women’s Day”, by someone who really means it and by someone who is saying it just for the sake of it. But all of this really doesn’t matter, today is the day when I want you to shower a little love that you’ve been giving out to others, today I want you to indulge in at least one thing that makes your heart happy, today I want you to exfoliate all the gender stereotypes the way you exfoliate your dead skin. I want you to know that “The Perfect Woman” is an imaginary drawing by the society, it doesn’t exist and how can you fit into something that is not even there in the first place?

On one hand, my heart is joyous to see women celebrating sisterhood, indulging in self-love and standing up for each other but on the other, I am slowly clapping on how others are killing it with their irony. It’s 2018 but when it comes to women, we dive back to the 90’s. To be honest, the only thing from the 90’s I want is the fashion and the T.V shows. That’s it, keep back all the traditions and sankaars on whose name you’ve been bounding us all. Keep back the idea that women need to be perfect. I might sound like a rebel here but my idea of how a woman should be doesn’t revolve around the word “flawless”, my idea of traditions is not just what lies around a women’s vagina. My idea of a woman is someone who knows her worth, who loves her scars, who loves her crooked teeth, who feels beautiful with or without makeup, who knows she is in no competition, who believes in equality and someone who demands to feel all the things in the world without caring about the endowed sex organ.

There’s basically a giant ocean of things I could say but no, all people want to hear about is how a “Perfect Woman” should be. Well, okay then, here are the rules a perfect woman should swear by.

1. CROSS YOUR LEGS, SIT LIKE A WOMAN


Oh, you, don’t you know that sitting like a lady is an art and since you are born with a vagina, you have to master this art.
Doesn’t matter that one day you have to spread your legs for someone you’ve seen for like 5 days (including sagai, roka, haldi, mehendi and your shaadi), but all your life you have to sit like a lady.

Women grow up hearing Cross your Legs, Sit Like a Women. Happy Women's Day and please sit properly

2. ABIDE BY THE LINE “WOMEN BELONGS TO THE KITCHEN”


And women should know how to make gol rotis because duh! You have been brought into this world to be your family’s MASTER CHEF. See, so much of respect is given to you but all you do is rant about it. Grow up!
 

Women belong to the Kitchen. Happy Women's Day but first make some food, you MASTER CHEF

3. ALWAYS READ HOLY BOOKS, OTHERWISE WHAT LESSONS WOULD YOU GIVE TO YOUR CHILDREN?


Forget liner on point, all that should be on point is your sanskars and where the hell would you get it except our religious holy books? After all, you have to pass it to the next generation to keep this vicious circle alive.

Women should be religious to pass on the legacy to their children. Happy Women's Day but first finish off reading all the holy books the world has ever seen
 

4. WOMEN SHOULD NOT SMOKE CIGARETTES OR DRINK ALCOHOL, TAUBA TAUBA!


Women are dumb or what? Don’t they know that cigarettes and alcohol are gender biased and only the creatures with a penis have the “privilege” to have them? No, we are not saying they are healthy but all we wanna say is that they are a poison for women. Geddit?

Women should not smoke but for men smoking is not injurious at all. Happy Women's Day.
 

5. WOMEN’S LIFE: BIRTH – MARRIAGE – KIDS – DEATH


Your ambition or passion would surely help you to land up with a job but not a marriage and a family and what’s of prior importance? Marriage, off course. Imagine a woman with files in her hand. Not appealing, duh!

Also, we have specially designed gadgets for women and for god’s sake they are not laptops. We have better things for you, like kadai and karchi.

Women can work but only after getting married and having kids. Happy Women's Day
 

6. WOMEN SHOULD BE AT HOME BY 9 PM. WHAT? WE THINK BY 5 PM IS BETTER


And if you do, make sure there’s a male by your side to protect you.
Your brother has got a life, he needs to enjoy it, he can’t be there by your side 24*7.
Your father has to make money; he needs to be at his office.
You can’t have a boyfriend.
Male friends? What does that even mean?

Women must be at home by 9 PM. Happy Women's Day but still you are not allowed to go outside after 6 PM

7. A WOMAN LOOK GREAT IN A SKIRT BUT LOOKS FABULOUS WHEN A SAREE IS DRAPED OVER IT AND THE BEST WHEN THE SAREE COVERS EVERYTHING FROM THEIR HAIR TO TOENAILS.


Society’s handy guide to compliment women-
Bra strap? Attention seeker.
Sleeveless top? Characterless.
Mini skirt? Hoe.
Dress? Slut.

Women must not wear revealing clothes. Happy Women's Day but first wear a saree

So, here are the few things I have grown up hearing. The list is never ending I know and to become the perfect woman is equal to not to exist. So, today, all I can tell you is that you can never become “THE PERFECT WOMAN”, but you can become something more empowering than this, you can become YOU and dammit that’s a horror for the society.

So, here’s I am wrapping it up by wishing all you wonderful souls a very HAPPY WOMEN’S DAY. Here’s a shout out to you for your curves, for your bones, for your laugh, for your dark skin, for your white skin, for your leadership skills, for your guts to raise your voice, for your manly clothes, for your girly habits, for each and every little thing. You all are hella amazinggg!

Do share your views in the comments section below. I would love to hear what's your take on International Women's Day. Why is there even a need for celebrating a day just for women? Share this article with your girl bosses if you feel so and if you enjoyed reading it, then do like the post.

Until the next time,
Love
Sayanti.
 

Comments (28)

  • Woman

    shruti

    08 March, 2018

    U r on d verge of breaking the taboo!! ?? #sheinspires

    • Sayanti Mahapatra

      Sayanti

      16 April, 2018

      Thank you Shruti! You are such a sweetheart!!

    Reply

  • Woman

    Kate Sinclair

    08 March, 2018

    Great inspirational post. Not too pushy but advocates power to women. Love it, happy women day to you xx

    • Sayanti Mahapatra

      Sayanti

      16 April, 2018

      Thank you so much for the wonderful comments Kate !

    Reply

  • Woman

    l dove

    09 March, 2018

    I love this. All of those things are alien to me as a mother to two girls, but I did hear many similar phrases growing up in the 80/90s.

    • Sayanti Mahapatra

      Sayanti

      16 April, 2018

      It is still in existence in may parts of the world. Glad that your girls don't have to face such scenarios!

    Reply

  • Woman

    Ali Rost

    09 March, 2018

    I love this. We should embrace who we are and celebrate being a woman. I hope you had a lovely International Women's day! Keep loving who you are!

    • Sayanti Mahapatra

      Sayanti

      16 April, 2018

      Yes Ali! You are totally right on this! Hope you had a wonderful women's day too !

    Reply

  • Man

    Chris

    09 March, 2018

    Love it - completely not what I expected but made me laugh out loud and had a good message!

    • Sayanti Mahapatra

      Sayanti

      16 April, 2018

      Thanks Chris! Life is too short to be serious every time, lol xD

    Reply

  • Woman

    Nathan

    09 March, 2018

    Oh I love this. And my mom would love to read this too. Happy Women's Day to all.

    • Sayanti Mahapatra

      Sayanti

      16 April, 2018

      Thanks Nathan. Do let me know if your mom liked it :)

    Reply

  • Woman

    Roby H.

    09 March, 2018

    You know… as a straight white male I am so happy that things are starting to shift and focus on the appreciation of other genders, races, and creeds. I think women are amazing and articles like this only help to empower them more. Fantastic job ??

    • Sayanti Mahapatra

      Sayanti

      16 April, 2018

      Thank you so much Roby ! This means a lot me !

    Reply

  • Woman

    Kusum

    11 March, 2018

    It is really sad that in this day and age, us women still need to fight such hypocrisy! But the more we voice our opinion the moe things have started to change.

    • Sayanti Mahapatra

      Sayanti

      16 April, 2018

      I totally agree with you on this :)

    Reply

  • Man

    Lex

    11 March, 2018

    So nice to see and know that there are women out there who still habe ways of telling it right and good to other women to learn and be real good. Happy International Women's Day and week to you and all women.

    • Sayanti Mahapatra

      Sayanti

      16 April, 2018

      That's so sweet of you Lex!

    Reply

  • Woman

    Chi Mpundu

    12 March, 2018

    Loved the humorous way you approached these ridiculous expectations of the "perfect" woman. Happy International Women's Day.

    • Sayanti Mahapatra

      Sayanti

      16 April, 2018

      Thank you so much Chi Mpundu! I am glad that you liked it :)

    Reply

  • Woman

    Tonya W

    15 March, 2018

    This is super inspirational girl! Women should not be stuck in gender biased roles! That is such a thing of the past.

    • Sayanti Mahapatra

      Sayanti

      16 April, 2018

      Yes true Tonya. But women all around the world still face these issues :(

    Reply

  • Woman

    lukhidiamond

    17 March, 2018

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    • Sayanti Mahapatra

      Sayanti

      16 April, 2018

      I am glad that this post helped you in some manner lukhidiamond :)

    Reply

  • Woman

    Danica Marie

    17 March, 2018

    Happy Women's day in belated! Great article and had we both read this with my mom as well <3

    • Sayanti Mahapatra

      Sayanti

      16 April, 2018

      That's super awesome Danica. I am so happy that you had a good time reading this !!

    Reply

  • Woman

    Msddah

    21 March, 2018

    Hahahaha.... this made my day. Only if there sis such a thing as a perfect woman as I have been feeling very inadequate lately! Especially in the area of success. Sadly this is a battle I categorize as hopeless! Great post

    • Sayanti Mahapatra

      Sayanti

      16 April, 2018

      But still we can always hope for the best!

    Reply