08 March, 2018
Hello, my beautiful ladies!
After a long time, I am sitting here and writing a post but this time it’s different. It’s unusual, it’s a feeling I can’t describe. My heart is filled up with emotions, my brain is brim-full and I have got so much to say but I don’t know where to start from, how to put it all in words. All I can say is that, if you are reading this, even if we don’t know each other, I am sending out the tightest and warmest hugs to you all.
Today, 8th of March, your inbox will be flooded with “Happy Women’s Day”, by someone who really means it and by someone who is saying it just for the sake of it. But all of this really doesn’t matter, today is the day when I want you to shower a little love that you’ve been giving out to others, today I want you to indulge in at least one thing that makes your heart happy, today I want you to exfoliate all the gender stereotypes the way you exfoliate your dead skin. I want you to know that “The Perfect Woman” is an imaginary drawing by the society, it doesn’t exist and how can you fit into something that is not even there in the first place?
On one hand, my heart is joyous to see women celebrating sisterhood, indulging in self-love and standing up for each other but on the other, I am slowly clapping on how others are killing it with their irony. It’s 2018 but when it comes to women, we dive back to the 90’s. To be honest, the only thing from the 90’s I want is the fashion and the T.V shows. That’s it, keep back all the traditions and sankaars on whose name you’ve been bounding us all. Keep back the idea that women need to be perfect. I might sound like a rebel here but my idea of how a woman should be doesn’t revolve around the word “flawless”, my idea of traditions is not just what lies around a women’s vagina. My idea of a woman is someone who knows her worth, who loves her scars, who loves her crooked teeth, who feels beautiful with or without makeup, who knows she is in no competition, who believes in equality and someone who demands to feel all the things in the world without caring about the endowed sex organ.
There’s basically a giant ocean of things I could say but no, all people want to hear about is how a “Perfect Woman” should be. Well, okay then, here are the rules a perfect woman should swear by.
1. CROSS YOUR LEGS, SIT LIKE A WOMAN
Oh, you, don’t you know that sitting like a lady is an art and since you are born with a vagina, you have to master this art.
Doesn’t matter that one day you have to spread your legs for someone you’ve seen for like 5 days (including sagai, roka, haldi, mehendi and your shaadi), but all your life you have to sit like a lady.
2. ABIDE BY THE LINE “WOMEN BELONGS TO THE KITCHEN”
And women should know how to make gol rotis because duh! You have been brought into this world to be your family’s MASTER CHEF. See, so much of respect is given to you but all you do is rant about it. Grow up!
3. ALWAYS READ HOLY BOOKS, OTHERWISE WHAT LESSONS WOULD YOU GIVE TO YOUR CHILDREN?
Forget liner on point, all that should be on point is your sanskars and where the hell would you get it except our religious holy books? After all, you have to pass it to the next generation to keep this vicious circle alive.
4. WOMEN SHOULD NOT SMOKE CIGARETTES OR DRINK ALCOHOL, TAUBA TAUBA!
Women are dumb or what? Don’t they know that cigarettes and alcohol are gender biased and only the creatures with a penis have the “privilege” to have them? No, we are not saying they are healthy but all we wanna say is that they are a poison for women. Geddit?
5. WOMEN’S LIFE: BIRTH – MARRIAGE – KIDS – DEATH
Your ambition or passion would surely help you to land up with a job but not a marriage and a family and what’s of prior importance? Marriage, off course. Imagine a woman with files in her hand. Not appealing, duh!
Also, we have specially designed gadgets for women and for god’s sake they are not laptops. We have better things for you, like kadai and karchi.
6. WOMEN SHOULD BE AT HOME BY 9 PM. WHAT? WE THINK BY 5 PM IS BETTER
And if you do, make sure there’s a male by your side to protect you.
Your brother has got a life, he needs to enjoy it, he can’t be there by your side 24*7.
Your father has to make money; he needs to be at his office.
You can’t have a boyfriend.
Male friends? What does that even mean?
7. A WOMAN LOOK GREAT IN A SKIRT BUT LOOKS FABULOUS WHEN A SAREE IS DRAPED OVER IT AND THE BEST WHEN THE SAREE COVERS EVERYTHING FROM THEIR HAIR TO TOENAILS.
Society’s handy guide to compliment women-
Bra strap? Attention seeker.
Sleeveless top? Characterless.
Mini skirt? Hoe.
So, here are the few things I have grown up hearing. The list is never ending I know and to become the perfect woman is equal to not to exist. So, today, all I can tell you is that you can never become “THE PERFECT WOMAN”, but you can become something more empowering than this, you can become YOU and dammit that’s a horror for the society.
So, here’s I am wrapping it up by wishing all you wonderful souls a very HAPPY WOMEN’S DAY. Here’s a shout out to you for your curves, for your bones, for your laugh, for your dark skin, for your white skin, for your leadership skills, for your guts to raise your voice, for your manly clothes, for your girly habits, for each and every little thing. You all are hella amazinggg!
Do share your views in the comments section below. I would love to hear what's your take on International Women's Day. Why is there even a need for celebrating a day just for women? Share this article with your girl bosses if you feel so and if you enjoyed reading it, then do like the post.
Until the next time,
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